There are three main stages of the Igbo Traditional marriage namely
Our first initial ceremony (iku aka)was held in December 1998 but due to my dad not being in Nigeria, he told my husband to hold off the final preparations until he was there.
We went back to London and attempted a traditional ceremony over there but every Igbo person knows that even if you do a lavish Igbo ceremony abroad you must come home to your compound and do the proper one lol.
So life went on, three lovely children came, money was used for more pressing things and we were not able to complete all the traditional rites in the village.
Seventeen years later and my beloved father Austin Anukem died suddenly in February 2016, which means, the final part of this important ceremony will be conducted without him. By God’s grace and in order to honour his memory, we intend to complete the final part of the igba nkwu, the day after his one year memorial event in my village.
|Me and My daddy (RIP)|
The first part of the Igbo Traditional Wedding custom is called Iku Aka (door knocking) and ours was performed in 1998. It involved my husband and his family and elders coming to greet my people and to tell them of their intentions to marry me. We had a memorable event back then. My inlaws were warmly welcomed.
|My inlaws came to knock on the door (RIP Dr N E Okoye)|
Contrary to popular belief, the daughter is not for sale.The dowry is just a symbol rather than the actual price a bride is worth. I like what Lekia Lee said on my facebook thread, ‘’The bride is priceless and if a price was to be put on the groom and his family, they would never be able to pay it. Its more about making a point about her worth’’.
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Then she dances out again in a more elegant ‘’George’’ attire and is told to find her husband. When she finds him, she kneels and gives him the cup and then he drinks and puts money inside. Chuba says ‘’When the Father of the bride gives his daughter that cup of palm wine and she sips it and passes it to her husband, they become legally married by customary law of Igbo land.The couple kneel down for blessings from the elders and their parents.
|Credit: Photography by Demi O|
|My super model darling Nephew Kamsi|
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